But she was withdrawn at the final party on the Saturday before the murders. What was running through her mind as she sat bereft, staring out of the window, gazing at Julie and with seemingly no interest in her boys?
Lookout I'd be interested in your thoughts as to the Zachary McLoughlin suicide, which I read about today. Do you think that some children just find the high pressure environment of school and social media just too much to live up to, is suicide a form of mental illness or do they know what they are doing as the last few seconds of their life approach? http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/brave-mums-brutally-honest-words-10066872
Only just seen this Steve,very heartbreaking indeed.
I did read a day or two ago of the amount of suicides in Australia involving teens/young men and it's almost like an epidemic.
First of all,are their expectations too high ? To do well at school,be fiercely competetive at sports,look their best,and worse,looking for perfection.
I would NEVER push children, for as long as they can read and write,it's good enough for me.
Having been to Australia on many an occasion,I'll say one thing which I noticed that a lot of parents even at infant school,seemed to be " pushing " their children the minute that school was over with " dance classes/ballet/choir/swimming/the gym/piano lessons/private tutor,etc etc " and I could see the child being reluctantly dragged to one of these straight after school, sessions.
The parents seemed overly protective/stifling, fussing and faffing,pandering to their needs.
My thoughts at the time,and now were let children be children and stop molding them into something that they will probably rebel about in later life.
Guide them and advise them,but NEVER expect the impossible from them.Life isn't about " keeping up " ,you'll get more out of a child if you don't have aspirations for them. Don't kill them with kindness !!
Some children aren't prepared for tough times in life,and after having had things easy in the formative years, they find it difficult to face facts if either the parents split or lose a job or pass away, and I think that a subject such as this should be part of the curriculum to prepare a child for such an eventuality to enable them to cope. A " talking " lesson would help a child deal with their situation,perhaps with a psychologist in attendance as well as others in similar situations. It's all about facing-up to grievances etc. and being able to trust those around you.
Suicide itself isn't a mental illness. It's about not being able to cope with stress. Some people are more prone than others,so it depends on your ability to cope under pressure and stress which is really down to your genetic make-up,though it may affect in other ways ( physically ) apart from mentally.