I have removed posts from this thread. What a disgraceful personal attack that was on another poster.
If anyone has a problem about a phrase used by another poster ie. Anything you may judge as racist, sexist, ageist or anything else they can complain to Admin or a moderator. Anymore abusive personal attacks like that and I will ban both of you or anyone else who behaves in a similar manner. You know who you are, take this as a warning.
I think this should have been dealt with on the open forum, Maggie. If a poster is capable of making ANY inappropriate, politically incorrect comments -no matter who they're directed at- if they choose to reveal that side of themselves publicly, they should expect to be reprimanded publicly. Perhaps, even given a temporary ban.
Now the posts have been removed, it's difficult to recall who said what to whom, although I suspect that it's obvious where the problem had it's origins. My own recall, is that one poster was defending themselves against the most appallingly unacceptable insults, which the poster who was dishing them out refused to accept responsibility for. As a consequence, the slurs became more vitriolic. It requires immense and superhuman effort, when one finds oneself in such circumstances, to be objective enough to take a step back, report it to a mod and wait for the mod to see it and act on it as they -you?- see it, which isn't necessarily the way the offended poster sees it. Indeed, rather than acknowledging that a poster has every right to defend themselves against the slurs, it sounds as if that poster is being threatened with a ban for doing so, whilst the poster responsible remains free to do it again.............but perhaps I'm reading it incorrectly? For my own part in it, I have no recall of saying anything unfounded, nor did I use any bad language. Indeed, I said nothing that I wouldn't have said to anyone else under similar circumstances. To make my position clear, I can't accept that I was part of "a disgraceful personal attack on another poster". The adjectives used indicate from where the attack came.
You don't need me to tell you that unresolved problems never go away. They sit there very quietly -becoming added to- until the next opportunity arises to reveal themselves. It would be good if the instigator of any problem had the grace and humility to back down and apologize -especially so at this time of year- rather than maintaining a position of always being justified. I think there comes a time when we object to being the ones who are expected to make allowances for other's behaviours.
