Anything I have disagreed about with NN was many months ago, i disagree with her or anyone else making assumptions about June. NN believes June adopted reluctantly and every other assumption she makes follows from that. I say I dont know what June's feelings about adoption were and she very well may have longed for a baby. We dont onow the whole truth of Sheila' relationship with June...relationships are complex things. I believe Sheila was a happy child and all the troubles started in adolescance. We dont know when Sheila started showing early signs of her illness which probably would not have been recognised by june and ralph and may have been seen as wickedness by June.
That is my argument but it is only a point of view and as far as I am concerned I have the right to hold it. I have never felt any animosity to NN although her views are different, in fact I considered her a friend until she made it clear she didnt see me as a friend of hers.
I wont be commenting anymore about this you'll all be relieved to hear. 
Hi Maggie
I responded to this on Friday but it appears to have got lost somewhere

I did not say that June adopted reluctantly I said ambivalently:
Psychology . the coexistence within an individual of positive and negative feelings toward the same person, object, or action, simultaneously drawing him or her in opposite directions.
I struggle to comprehend how a woman like June with strong religious beliefs and firm views on sexual morality reconciled her feelings with regard to adopting two illegitimate children.
As we know June took her religious beliefs seriously. The CoA document states the following:
14. June Bamber was also 61 years old. Religion had always played a strong part in her life. In her latter years her interest in this regard had to an extent come to dominate her thinking, to a point that might have been thought to be obsessive. In 1982, she received treatment at a psychiatric hospital in Northampton
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Note no ref to June's mental illness in 1959 
Given the above and my post as follows:
http://jeremybamberforum.co.uk/index.php/topic,3955.msg164365.html#msg164365and the following link referring to adoptive parents and religion I'm sure you will understand my thinking
http://www.originsnsw.com/mentalhealth/id5.htmlThe above link quotes Dr Alexina Mcwhinnie from Dundee university as follows:
"Mc Whinnie also refers to her study about the conditions of religious affiliation for prospective adopters. Her study again shows that other factors are important here, and it should not be assumed that because the adopters are members of a church they would make sympathetic adopters. In fact it would seem important to assess particularly carefully the attitudes of those who hold very rigid religious beliefs since these, if unduly puritanical, might lead them to finding difficulty in accepting illegitimacy and the child born to unmarried parents"
Lol I have no idea how my adoptive parents manged to 'acquire' me given that my Dad is and always has been an ardent atheist and my adoptive mother not far behind. I'm sure they must have lied to the adoption agency

. I remember my Dad, brother and me loved those Dave Allen sketches about religion. Thank you Daddy for setting me on the right path
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxo81Ok9Urk