" Common characteristics of a victim of emotional abuse ", quote :
" They have a low self-esteem "
" They have a submissive personality "
" They feel inferior to others "
" They depend on others emotionally and financially "
" They feel they don't deserve to be respected as human beings "
" They have unrealistic expectations "
" They feel they need to be controlled ( or protected ) by others "
" They are excessively tolerant and accommodating "
" They don't stand for their rights "
" They deceive themselves in thinking that--one day--magically,the abuser will change "
" They blame themselves on other people's problems,or they blame it on the world,or life,or luck,or a given situation.
" They are not aware of the fact that they allow abuse to occur "
"They don't feel they are capable to succeed by themselves "
" They tend to have a difficult time setting boundaries and saying " NO ".
In between times Sheila lived with depression through lack of self-achievement, and frustration because of the continuous controlling and belittling attitude from her mother.
Quite often,the victim will allow the abuse to continue because they feel that they have nothing to live for.
The abusers themselves have mental health issues and also display inadequate behaviours whether the victim is present or not. Theirs is a personality disorder.
Sheila had been a healthy child but on growing into adulthood didn't have a particularly good relationship with her mother. Her salvation in this household was her father who she relied on for emotional support, and up to a point she'd have been able to control her emotions of the psychological abuse,but not those of her abuser.
If Sheila's father hadn't been around,I doubt very much that Sheila would ever have visited WHF.
