I haven't lost my rag -and by the way, the word is OBSTREPEROUS and I'm not being that either- I'm just asking you to refrain from making it personal by turning everything into something you would/wouldn't have done. It isn't about you.
It was a perfectly obvious question that I'd asked,without the need for a barrage of excuses about it being " me,or personal " ! I was only making a suggestion-------which isn't forbidden,is it ?
That word can be spelt either way depending where you come from.It means the same thing !