Colin said he would have killed June

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I see where you are coming from quite often parents shower their kids with material things because they do not have the time to give them love and attention and children do sense this and can feel let down when the novelty of the gifts has worn off.  Sad really.

There is not only a lot of resentment, those who are starved for love often end up looking for it in other ways and places including sleeping around, abusing substances and other things that end up causing problems.  When they become parents they either 1) break this cycle and make sure they don't treat their kids the same way because they didn't like it; or 2) those who perpetuate it by doing the same thing to their kids.

 

[Jane]

There is not only a lot of resentment, those who are starved for love often end up looking for it in other ways and places including sleeping around, abusing substances and other things that end up causing problems.  When they become parents they either 1) break this cycle and make sure they don't treat their kids the same way because they didn't like it; or 2) those who perpetuate it by doing the same thing to their kids.

 

And this is exactly why I bought in the possibility of sexual promiscuity which often has much less to do with sex than a basic need for affection, the lack of which can cause an emptiness difficult to fill. Substance/alcohol abuse assuages the feelings on a temporary basis until the doses/amounts taken increase and cause their own problems. Unfortunately by the time these people produce their own children, because they know no other way of being, patterns often repeat. Those capable of thinking find help in breaking the cycle. It can be done.

[nugnug]

In his book Colin did say that he couldn´t blame Jeremy for killing June because he would have done it himself! Jeremy saved him the trouble! He said that about someone who killed his children in the same sweep, so to say.
At the trial Colin couldn´t judge Jeremy for killing JUNE, he wanted to kill her himself.

But I don´t understand Colin here, Jeremy killed his sons! All he talks about is that he understands why he killed June!

Really confusing. Deeply dysfunctional - and if there is one thing we cannot talk about here: the dysfunction of the Bamber family. Where it all came from.

under the cercumstances im rather suprised he said he cant of liked her.

mind you was he thinking straght at the time he had been through a very traumatic expernce.

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Nugs,June was truly awful towards Sheila and Colin. I felt sorry for them both before they got married as June wouldn't allow Sheila to wear a white wedding dress or get married in a church because Sheila was pregnant. How very Christian-like.!

[Jan]

Nugs,June was truly awful towards Sheila and Colin. I felt sorry for them both before they got married as June wouldn't allow Sheila to wear a white wedding dress or get married in a church because Sheila was pregnant. How very Christian-like.!

she did wear a white dress I think ?- I am sure I have seen a picture . But I agree she gave Sheila a hard time .

[nugnug]

well that explians it then.

[maggie]

she did wear a white dress I think ?- I am sure I have seen a picture . But I agree she gave Sheila a hard time .

I think Colin said she was only allowed to wear a cream dress.

[Jane]

I think Colin said she was only allowed to wear a cream dress.

According to CAL it was cream. I'm getting good at this, aren't I?

[Jan]

ahhh - black and white photo

[lookout]

According to CAL it was cream. I'm getting good at this, aren't I?

Yes,it was cream. Aw,they wanted to get married at June's church and she said " Indeed not ". I'd have felt sick right away.

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 How bloody cruel was that ?.Poor Sheila having to put up with it. June was cruel to Sheila of that there was no doubt. Poor Neville kept his mouth shut for the sake of peace.

[maggie]

How bloody cruel was that ?.Poor Sheila having to put up with it. June was cruel to Sheila of that there was no doubt. Poor Neville kept his mouth shut for the sake of peace.

He may have agreed with June? Or thought of it as women's business and none of his business?

[Jane]

Yes,it was cream. Aw,they wanted to get married at June's church and she said " Indeed not ". I'd have felt sick right away.

Sadly, for June, it looks as if she felt herself to be judged on every level, be it by God or the community. It would have made spontaneous, loving motherhood virtually impossible because of all the God/man made rules she had to follow.

[lookout]

He may have agreed with June?

I think he did latterly Maggie,again,for peace's sake. This wouldn't have gone down well with Sheila either as once upon a time he'd been very supportive of Sheila. There could have been steaming rows about that,we don't know.

[maggie]

Sadly, for June, it looks as if she felt herself to be judged on every level, be it by God or the community. It would have made spontaneous, loving motherhood virtually impossible because of all the God/man made rules she had to follow.

Poor June, she had a raw deal herself in many ways.