Shona
You really are a nasty piece of work
Post something when u think I am not around
Wake up and smell the coffee
Sheila was responsible for the murders and everyone knows it
One day I will get to the bottom of your hatred for Jeremy and one day Colin will apologise to Jeremy I know that
Please find another forum to go on when you are drunk because you have not made one useful post to this forum except jb is guilty?
This being the same Jeremy who didn't have the decency to even hand over the twins possessions to Colin? The same Jeremy who made him go through carrier bags in the hallway to get momentos.....
Vidvic! I'm surprised at you.
You know that families have to sort out the things of loved ones when they die. It's a practical and emotional necessity to do this, one of the rituals of grieving and part of the process of coming to terms with the loss. It's a horrible, depressing thing to have to do, packing away a loved one's life, but it has to be done. Those grieving for lost loved ones cannot begin to move on until all such matters have been resolved, so it's customary for most families to do this immediately after the funeral.
Colin was away on holiday for a couple of weeks following the funeral, wasn't he? So he was unavailable to help with this. Yet Colin would have known that it was the customary practice to get the job of sorting Sheila's and the boys' things over with as soon as possible.
Perhaps Colin didn't have the heart to do this because it would have been too upsetting for him? I presume if he had wished to do it he would have contacted Jeremy about it, yet I don't recall that he did that. Realistically, by going on holiday after the funeral, wasn't Colin effectively sending out a message that he did not want to be involved with sorting out the flat?
But that's not quite the whole truth Keira.
After Colin returned he did try to get some things and was quite upset that Jeremy had completely stripped out their things and ( I can't recall the exact quote ) basically had dumped all of the boys stuff in the hallway, in carrier bags.
I'm confused, Vidvic, what isn't the whole truth? I didn't state that Colin didn't contact Jeremy after Colin returned from holiday. We know that he did that, but in leaving it a couple of weeks before he got in touch Colin created the impression that he wished to leave sorting everything out to Jeremy.
Cousins of mine behaved in a very similar manner when one of our widowed uncles died - he didn't have children. I was left to organise everything as my cousins had commitments and didn't have time to help. I had to travel up north to do what had to be done - my cousins lived in the north. I gave the little money that was left after everything was paid for to my cousins, I was too upset to take anything.
Having worked my socks off arranging everything and sorting out my uncle's house, I asked my cousins to come and get whatever they wanted as I intended to donate everything they didn't;t want to a charity shop. My cousins were nowhere to be seen. Yet after everything was resolved and my uncle's belongings were donated to charity, my cousins began grumbling that I should have saved this for one of them and that for another. They also moaned that I should not have spent so much on the funeral.
That's families and funerals for you, Vidvic, a death in the family normally invariably leads to bad feeling and a row.
