Agree with your answers to Adam's post Caroline.
Would like to add that Neil was not in the Army, he was in the RAF and was trained as a fighter pilot. The training he undertook would have been rigorous as he had to learn Navigation by the stars etc. He would be trained how to deal if he came down in enemy territory but wouldn't be trained for combat the way and Army man would be. I know the moves he would have been taught as my Dad taught them to me when I was a teenager. A tie was a necessary article of clothing for some of these moves to be successful, don't believe Sheila was wearing one and cannot for a moment imagine Nevill sticking his fingers in the eyes of his beloved daughter, would imagine he would choose to die rather than do such a thing.