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Title: Grass and then there were tree's...true life book, coming to Europe soon..
Post by: tez28 on October 10, 2012, 08:13:PM
My book is now published in Frankfurt and I believe it will be of interest to this group, it's a true life account of official corruption, crime, attempted murder and a life long sentence to mental illness!

 Krisha Stanworth is a mother apart from her children. She suffers from Parent Alienation syndrome. My life path, in parts, has been catastrophic, and bad judgement led to a life you wouldn't want to live, believe me. The contents of this book led me into further conflictions in different parts of my life, some I'm still dealing with as I write. The journey described within the book took place over several years, and once separated from my children things only got worse. I was born in Sheffield, South Yorkshire, England and was the sixth child within the family unit. My own family caused me trouble by taking judgements into their own hands and it was hard to accept that I had been placed in the same category as other members of my family, when it came to dealing with law and the courts. The miscarriage of justice that is placed on my children and me, is one that I deal with, the best way I can, on a daily basis, and it will stay with me until the day I die. Post traumatic stress disorder can at times be unbearable.

We need to raise awareness of this anus crime and do what ever we can to stop it !!! Please help bring awareness, your help is appreciated..
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Post by: Patti on October 10, 2012, 09:11:PM
Hi There

I was born in a Sheffield hospital. But, lived in Derbyshire for most of my life, until Sheffield took over the border in the 70's.  I thin moved to a quieter village near Newark, Nottinghamshire for 9 years, but cam back home here in Sheffield 9 years ago.

I would be happy t read your book, when it is available here....I wonder if we know one another?  :) :) :)
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Post by: mike tesko on October 10, 2012, 09:49:PM
I look forward to reading your book, do you have an ISBN number for the publication, if so could you please make it available by posting it here on the forum - thank you...
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Post by: lookout on October 11, 2012, 09:02:AM
I will make a note of this book.It sounds very interesting and I'm sure will reflect many lives.
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Post by: tez28 on October 11, 2012, 05:01:PM
thank you for your kind words of support, miscarriages of justice happen in all parts of life and unless we stand against their mistakes nothing would change. We need people to stand and be counted, even though these people can then be targeted by neigh sayers, some of us have to find strength to stand tall in these sort of situations, and i have found myself in this unfortunate position.
thanks for requesting the following information -
Grass, And Then There Were Trees
Author: Krisha Stanworth
Book Details:
ISBN: 9781622122462
Publish Year: 2012
Word Count: 61804
Publisher: SBPRA
About the Book:
Category: Historical Non-Fiction
Keywords: Crime, law, corruption, abuse, spirituality
i appreciate your support 
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Post by: mike tesko on October 13, 2012, 05:16:AM
When will book be available?
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Post by: tez28 on October 15, 2012, 08:10:PM
i havent been given the official date yet but once i do i will be back to let you all knnow
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Post by: mike tesko on October 20, 2012, 07:09:PM
i havent been given the official date yet but once i do i will be back to let you all knnow

OK, thank you...
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 09:02:AM
Book is now available...
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Post by: lookout on May 03, 2013, 09:22:AM
Book is now available...


Thanks for the reminder Mike. I've just bought it off Amazon.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 01:53:PM

Thanks for the reminder Mike. I've just bought it off Amazon.

Autho Chrisha Stanworth is my little sister - I strongly recommend this book to everyone
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Post by: lookout on May 03, 2013, 02:06:PM
Autho Chrisha Stanworth is my little sister - I strongly recommend this book to everyone


Aww,,yes,I do remember you saying Mike. I'm looking forward to reading it.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 02:33:PM

Aww,,yes,I do remember you saying Mike. I'm looking forward to reading it.
You make sure you keep an eye out for that dodgy, highly intelligent, cunning, resourceful, elusive, mythological character in my little sisters book, refferred to by the name, "Spring heeled Jack"...
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Post by: lookout on May 03, 2013, 02:36:PM
You make sire you keep an eye out for that dodgy mythological character in my little sisters book, refderred to by the name, "Spring heeled Jack"
..


Mike,Spring heeled Jack was no myth.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 04:36:PM

Mike,Spring heeled Jack was no myth.

"Oh, yes he was, oh no he wasn't, oh yes he was"...
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 04:38:PM
Sister, is in progress of writing her second book...

Gripping reading...
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 04:48:PM
 Both my sister and I, believe her former partner sought to murder our mother...

So, don't speak to me about how distressing it is to make noise about her passing, I am fuming, I am raging,  whilst the evil bastard that tried to suffocate mum, remains under the protection of South Yorkshire police, a  paid police informant, a grass, and whatever you might want to call him...
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 04:53:PM
Both my sister and I, believe her former partner sought to murder our mother...

So, don't speak to me about how distressing it is to make noise about her passing, I am fuming, I am raging,  whilst the evil bastard that tried to suffocate mum, remains under the protection of South Yorkshire police, a paid police informant, a grass, and whatever you might want to call the him...

He had accomplices, who know the truth, but choose to stand by and support the evil greedy bastard that was my little sisters partner - judgement day is fast approaching for you, you sad evil bastard, I hope you rot in hell.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 03, 2013, 09:38:PM
Fancy, an evil bastard like Geoff Lewis, trying to suffocate my elderly mum with a pillow, whilst mum was staying with my little sister, whilst I was incarcerated by fabricated evidence from South Yorkshire police officers...
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Post by: lookout on May 04, 2013, 11:51:AM
Mike,,it's that feeling of utter powerlessness and being without a voice when you're up against the law.
What a lousy position to put anyone in.
Yes,,your frustration builds up as you hear damning evidence against you from all quarters,,and knowing that the evidence is also fabricated as well is enough to make you ill.
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Post by: vidvic on May 04, 2013, 01:24:PM
Mike,,it's that feeling of utter powerlessness and being without a voice when you're up against the law.
What a lousy position to put anyone in.
Yes,,your frustration builds up as you hear damning evidence against you from all quarters,,and knowing that the evidence is also fabricated as well is enough to make you ill.

What happened to you then?
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Post by: lookout on May 04, 2013, 01:29:PM
What happened to you then?


Not me personally,vidvic.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 12, 2013, 07:39:AM
Author, little sister, Chrisha Stanworth and me, out last night:-
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Post by: Alias on May 12, 2013, 02:09:PM
Oh, your sister, she looks nice. Those are really good photos of you.
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Post by: Alias on May 12, 2013, 02:34:PM
Both my sister and I, believe her former partner sought to murder our mother...

So, don't speak to me about how distressing it is to make noise about her passing, I am fuming, I am raging,  whilst the evil bastard that tried to suffocate mum, remains under the protection of South Yorkshire police, a  paid police informant, a grass, and whatever you might want to call him...

That is awful. My father died rather violently when I was four years old. I have always suspected that he might have been murdered. Without going into detail, I can say that there was motive (both economical and personal) and opportunity. It was deemed a suicide, but I have this nagging feeling I cannot shake.
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Post by: lookout on May 12, 2013, 03:43:PM
How sad are these " stories ". I can't imagine the injustices. Well,I can really,,because the thought never leaves you,,as there are such things as flashbacks and the worst thing about these is that you feel utterly powerless.
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Post by: Daniel_day on May 12, 2013, 04:42:PM
Fancy, an evil bastard like Geoff Lewis, trying to suffocate my elderly mum with a pillow, whilst mum was staying with my little sister, whilst I was incarcerated by fabricated evidence from South Yorkshire police officers...
I am sorry to hear that Mike,
On the Bamber case you are speaking from personal experience. Knowing that someone tried to murder your mother must be utterly horrifying and deeply disturbing.My heart goes out to you.
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Post by: mike tesko on May 12, 2013, 06:07:PM
You tube Link:-

(1) - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzcUDQEAKgI
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Post by: lookout on May 12, 2013, 06:15:PM
Those beautiful children.

Mike,,I can relate to part of that,,for as far as I'm concerned,,since 2011,,my case isn't ended,,concerning my familys' trauma at the hands of social workers,police,doctors and teachers.
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Post by: Caroline R on May 12, 2013, 06:17:PM
You tube Link:-

(1) - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzcUDQEAKgI

Wow!! That's awful Mike - I just bought the book - last one from Amazon!! X
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Post by: lookout on May 12, 2013, 06:19:PM
Wow!! That's awful Mike - I just bought the book - last one from Amazon!! X


My book should be in the post this week.
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Post by: Alias on May 12, 2013, 06:30:PM
OMG, that is awful, your poor sister, Mike!
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Post by: mike tesko on May 12, 2013, 07:20:PM

Mike,Spring heeled Jack was no myth.

No, South Yorkshire police, thought he was a real character...
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Post by: mike tesko on May 12, 2013, 07:22:PM
"Spring Heeled Jack", is mentioned in my little sisters book, as well as the evil, twisted mind of a person named, "Fred"...
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Post by: tez28 on July 14, 2013, 05:35:PM

Mike,Spring heeled Jack was no myth.
correct
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Post by: lookout on July 14, 2013, 06:07:PM
correct




Hi there,of course I received your book and I'm at the end of chapter 22. A rivetting read of real life,unbelievable to some,but nevertheless happens if you happen to put your full trust in the law. Ironic really when you're brought up to show respect and tell the truth at all times,but-------------------------
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Post by: tez28 on July 14, 2013, 07:12:PM
I know the only reason "Fred" got control of my children is because I was a threat and danger to the regional crime squad...   these people think because they are the law that they are untouchable... I have tried helplessly to complain and ask for an investigation into the facts but I have been told categorically there is no way the authorities will authorise an investigation... how do they live knowing they have created such a monster?
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Post by: lookout on July 14, 2013, 07:37:PM
This is the trouble,,nobody likes you if you've got a voice. I'm well aware of that myself. All hiding behind their superiority and embedded into a corrupt system,whether it be the police,social services or the politicians. 
I think the way you've been treated is absolutely disgusting,,and I don't honestly know how you cope.
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Post by: tez28 on July 14, 2013, 07:45:PM
to add further; once I had left and discovered that "Fred" and associates had been responsible for the wrongful incarceration of my brother, "Fred" definitely guilty of attempted murder, I was destroyed further.. During the first 16 years, (never speaking about what had happened with my family) I felt this was all my fault. I miss my mum so much and if only.......
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Post by: lookout on July 14, 2013, 08:14:PM
to add further; once I had left and discovered that "Fred" and associates had been responsible for the wrongful incarceration of my brother, "Fred" definitely guilty of attempted murder, I was destroyed further.. During the first 16 years, (never speaking about what had happened with my family) I felt this was all my fault. I miss my mum so much and if only.......



Not your fault at all. There was absolutely nothing more that you could have done,,,but I realise you must have felt utterly powerless,,,and to be put in such a situation by the " secret society " is nothing short of criminal.  Because of all that had happened,,possibly the reason for not speaking about it,is that it's so unbelievable that you'd wonder if anyone would believe what had happened.
Of course you miss your mum,,but with other things going on at the same time,you hardly had much chance with her because of the circumstances surrounding you at the time she went into hospital. Your mum probably wouldn't have known what was going on once she was admitted,,,then sadly beyond that--------------
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Post by: tez28 on July 14, 2013, 09:28:PM
that is so true... and that is why I never spoke up....the first person I told was my brother mike, on Christmas day one year...and no I was drunk..it slipped out by accident and I wouldn't say all. He couldn't respond maybe through shock and realisation of what id said. At the same time, Christmas 1999 I was shown absolute proof that "Fred" had been involved with the wrongful incarceration of my brother Mike. I suppose it was a starting point to release something of all the pressure and silence. I never spoke again about what had happened, even though mike asked and assured me things would be ok. it wasn't till 2012 that for no reason at all, no prompting at all that I was attending a medical appointment at the local hospital in our area and my husband was with me. I had entered the consultants room, (By this stage this consultant had been caring for me since 2004). The consultant just said "How are things?" and that was it, i burst into tears and it just rolled out. I sobbed so hard I felt so weak, but both him and my husband just sat there in disbelief. From that appointment forward the consultant has taken every step to help me cope and still I haven't let every thing that happened come out. At times the flashbacks come wave after wave, the feelings are so intense, some days I could pass out with the feelings that start to surface. I don't any other way to describe it. I am permanently weak down one side of my body, no one knows if this is to do with stress or a suggested diagnosis.. I cope the best way I can..some members of my family are now aware of what happened but others have no idea. one day maybe I will be able to get more out.. 
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Post by: Alias on July 14, 2013, 10:54:PM
that is so true... and that is why I never spoke up....the first person I told was my brother mike, on Christmas day one year...and no I was drunk..it slipped out by accident and I wouldn't say all. He couldn't respond maybe through shock and realisation of what id said. At the same time, Christmas 1999 I was shown absolute proof that "Fred" had been involved with the wrongful incarceration of my brother Mike. I suppose it was a starting point to release something of all the pressure and silence. I never spoke again about what had happened, even though mike asked and assured me things would be ok. it wasn't till 2012 that for no reason at all, no prompting at all that I was attending a medical appointment at the local hospital in our area and my husband was with me. I had entered the consultants room, (By this stage this consultant had been caring for me since 2004). The consultant just said "How are things?" and that was it, i burst into tears and it just rolled out. I sobbed so hard I felt so weak, but both him and my husband just sat there in disbelief. From that appointment forward the consultant has taken every step to help me cope and still I haven't let every thing that happened come out. At times the flashbacks come wave after wave, the feelings are so intense, some days I could pass out with the feelings that start to surface. I don't any other way to describe it. I am permanently weak down one side of my body, no one knows if this is to do with stress or a suggested diagnosis.. I cope the best way I can..some members of my family are now aware of what happened but others have no idea. one day maybe I will be able to get more out..

So sorry, and I feel for you. Must have been terrible. UGH
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Post by: tez28 on July 14, 2013, 11:20:PM
thanks for caring. it still is but i now get a little bit of help with this..i would like everyone on here to spread the word of my book because like everyone i would never have beleived this possible,, but i know it is. everything surrounding this period of time, documents, court orders, and reports i have stored away in a safe place for i dont trust the authorities because of everything that has happened. i'm not by no means saying all officail people are corrupt and them that i know are i named them when trying to get the police to investigate their misconduct. i don't think, in fact i know i will never forget.
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Post by: Jane on July 15, 2013, 09:05:AM
that is so true... and that is why I never spoke up....the first person I told was my brother mike, on Christmas day one year...and no I was drunk..it slipped out by accident and I wouldn't say all. He couldn't respond maybe through shock and realisation of what id said. At the same time, Christmas 1999 I was shown absolute proof that "Fred" had been involved with the wrongful incarceration of my brother Mike. I suppose it was a starting point to release something of all the pressure and silence. I never spoke again about what had happened, even though mike asked and assured me things would be ok. it wasn't till 2012 that for no reason at all, no prompting at all that I was attending a medical appointment at the local hospital in our area and my husband was with me. I had entered the consultants room, (By this stage this consultant had been caring for me since 2004). The consultant just said "How are things?" and that was it, i burst into tears and it just rolled out. I sobbed so hard I felt so weak, but both him and my husband just sat there in disbelief. From that appointment forward the consultant has taken every step to help me cope and still I haven't let every thing that happened come out. At times the flashbacks come wave after wave, the feelings are so intense, some days I could pass out with the feelings that start to surface. I don't any other way to describe it. I am permanently weak down one side of my body, no one knows if this is to do with stress or a suggested diagnosis.. I cope the best way I can..some members of my family are now aware of what happened but others have no idea. one day maybe I will be able to get more out..



Your post has touched me deeply. Feelings have surfaced from a time in my own life that I wouldn't have wished on anyone. I am VERY concerned that you are still holding on to some of what happened and I would urge you to find someone you can give this information to. I spent many years in therapy because of what happened to me and the room in which it took place was womblike in its security. One of the most important lessons I learned was that the more I talked about it, the more the burden of it was lifted from me. I'm certain that you don't need me to tell you just how crushing is that burden. It took a long time before I was able to do this outside the therapy room. Misplaced loyalty, guilt, shame, embarrassment, fear that I and my world would fall apart all played a part in this. Your book will do a great job on your behalf, but I feel that true healing will come from you HEARING yourself say the words out loud. For me, healing was like a benediction which is constantly renewed. Not a day goes past when I don't feel the joy of finally being free of it and from the bottom of my heart I wish the same peace of mind for you.


 
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Post by: susan on July 15, 2013, 09:16:AM
Morning april  thank you for giving such good advice to Doleyglassback you have had such horrendous times in your life and you have come through with flying colours.  Well done to you my dear.  I have had some difficult times in my life but I have always been able to talk about them which as a result like you I feel fulfilled and not bitter but I suspect Doleyglassback has had much much harder times than I ever had.
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Post by: Jane on July 15, 2013, 09:42:AM
Morning april  thank you for giving such good advice to Doleyglassback you have had such horrendous times in your life and you have come through with flying colours.  Well done to you my dear.  I have had some difficult times in my life but I have always been able to talk about them which as a result like you I feel fulfilled and not bitter but I suspect Doleyglassback has had much much harder times than I ever had.


Susan HELLO :) and thankyou for your kind and generous words. Everyones circumstances are in isolation from anyone elses so it's not possible to say that a circumstane is better or worse, only different. I strongly suspect that the way in which we deal with things as adults is entirely linked to how our worlds were when we were children, meaning that a confident child will deal very differently with life problems than will a child whose spirit has been undermined.
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Post by: susan on July 15, 2013, 09:49:AM
Hello april excellent post and very true.
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Post by: lookout on July 15, 2013, 10:12:AM
Good morning girls.. It is the most wonderful therapy to be able to talk. Believe it or not,,two weeks ago,I finished an 8 week course of PTSD ( post-traumatic stress disorder ) I thought,,being a strong person,that I would/could eventually shut the part of my mind out that was troubling,,but to no avail. I was full of anger which was making me ill,,and in my quest to find answers to my problem,,I'd hit a brick wall,,as there literally wasn't a thing I could do,,nor anyone of " authority " that I could turn to,,as they all seemed to be working against me.
I'd had this problem since 2011,,well this particular one anyway,,and I was trying to deal with it on my own. I'd sat up all night at times,getting notes off the internet and compiled a whole A4 writing pad of a cross between a diary and a case which I was prepared to use in court.
When you know that you're right,,it's very frustrating when you can't get anyone on your side. To have a " door closed in your face " is very soul-destroying even though you know that what you set out to do,,you can't give up,whatever happens,,you've got to keep going. Where the strength comes from to carry on,,I don't know,,but it can be very draining at times,and unless you remain focussed,,you're lost.

Doleyglassback is certainly an admirable character,who I feel that I know on a personal level,,as I can relate to her in some aspects of her life. I appreciate her written thoughts made into bookform,as it's part of her life.A part that will take a long time to release from her mind.
I would advise her to look after herself,healthwise,in order to keep going,as it's most important,,even if you have not much else. Things will come together eventually,,but anything concerning authorities can take a longer time when you're fighting for justice,but if you show determination,you'll get there in the end. Hard,I know,,but unless you keep up the fight,,they've won.   
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Post by: susan on July 15, 2013, 10:35:AM
Morning lookout

I know how you feel I have had doors shut in my face and fought an incident for 7 years and in the end I thought my sanity was worth more than the issue in question and I just walked away.  With me it is not a case of who has won it is a case of who is the better person and I consider that to be myself I have no anger bitterness and can live at peace and even talk about the incident with no emotion.  Not sure if I would have Jeremy's staying power as I tend to take the least line of resistance as that is my nature. Maybe I am weak but I am happy weak ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: lookout on July 15, 2013, 10:44:AM
Morning lookout

I know how you feel I have had doors shut in my face and fought an incident for 7 years and in the end I thought my sanity was worth more than the issue in question and I just walked away.  With me it is not a case of who has won it is a case of who is the better person and I consider that to be myself I have no anger bitterness and can live at peace and even talk about the incident with no emotion.  Not sure if I would have Jeremy's staying power as I tend to take the least line of resistance as that is my nature. Maybe I am weak but I am happy weak ;D ;D ;D





Morning Susan,,,good for you girl.A lot of sense spoken there,as usual from your good self.
A lot does depend on the sort of person you are,,but as long as you can " keep your head " when all around are losing theirs,,you're on to a winner. I found myself in that situation and I can tell you,,it was very satisfying,,especially seeing that they were supposed to be professionals.
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Post by: Jane on July 15, 2013, 10:53:AM
Morning lookout

I know how you feel I have had doors shut in my face and fought an incident for 7 years and in the end I thought my sanity was worth more than the issue in question and I just walked away.  With me it is not a case of who has won it is a case of who is the better person and I consider that to be myself I have no anger bitterness and can live at peace and even talk about the incident with no emotion.  Not sure if I would have Jeremy's staying power as I tend to take the least line of resistance as that is my nature. Maybe I am weak but I am happy weak ;D ;D ;D


Nothing at all to do with weakness, Susan. It's about being able to recognize what's what's important to you and what it takes to bring you peace of mind. It's different for us all but it doesn't mean we're right or wrong. We're (hopefully) just doing what's right for us.
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Post by: susan on July 15, 2013, 11:02:AM
Hi april you are right again.  I prefer to walk away than let something destroy my life and it is as you said all down to the nature of the individual I'm weak ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by: tez28 on July 15, 2013, 04:55:PM
I would like to thank all of you for your words of kindness and wisdom.. I am close to tears reading what you have all wrote. The pain is inscribed so deep, at the moment I am unable to part with what happened. this happened in 1995 and still I'm being tortured. I lost my mum and kids to the most evilest person 'I've had the unfortunate pleasure of meeting with. we think we have our eyes open, but in reality when things happen that you just can't comprehend, later you realise you were so blind. After the attempted murder of my mother more suffering was inflicted upon me by things she needed to tell someone before she died. She off loaded it onto me which I don't and didn't mind, but the injury my mother endured at the hands of others, in her most weakest moments is heart wrenching for me. I tried several years after my mother's death to put right the wrong doing that had been bestowed upon my mother, by others she trusted in her time of need...but hey that's another story and still it twists inside me  till the pain gets to much then my body goes into flat line mode..so much I carry because I was expected too. that revolver has me held by so many angles at times I had thought I would never survive the torture that is happening to me then and still now. but one thing for sure all the people that have been responsible for inflicting their evil ways on my mother, now all know I have pulled their skeletons from out of the cupboard, and they know I will never forgive them or shut up about their wrong doings. To me my mother was my life and it took for her death to realise just how much she really meant to me. I will never forget her or her circumstances that she didn't deserve ,, but one day....
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Post by: susan on July 15, 2013, 05:18:PM
Hello Doleyglassback  your story sounds so horrendous and sad.  I wish I could help you but I suppose it has to come from within and time is a great healer.  I cannot give you advice as I am not qualified to do so but all I can say you are in my thoughts and you sound to be a very strong person who will come through this eventually :(
Title: Re: Grass and then there were tree's...true life book, coming to Europe soon..
Post by: tez28 on July 15, 2013, 05:34:PM
me today after getting myself together after your kind words! 
Title: Re: Grass and then there were tree's...true life book, coming to Europe soon..
Post by: Patti on July 15, 2013, 06:08:PM


Your post has touched me deeply. Feelings have surfaced from a time in my own life that I wouldn't have wished on anyone. I am VERY concerned that you are still holding on to some of what happened and I would urge you to find someone you can give this information to. I spent many years in therapy because of what happened to me and the room in which it took place was womblike in its security. One of the most important lessons I learned was that the more I talked about it, the more the burden of it was lifted from me. I'm certain that you don't need me to tell you just how crushing is that burden. It took a long time before I was able to do this outside the therapy room. Misplaced loyalty, guilt, shame, embarrassment, fear that I and my world would fall apart all played a part in this. Your book will do a great job on your behalf, but I feel that true healing will come from you HEARING yourself say the words out loud. For me, healing was like a benediction which is constantly renewed. Not a day goes past when I don't feel the joy of finally being free of it and from the bottom of my heart I wish the same peace of mind for you.

Lovely April :) That was a lovely post and so so true. Sometimes it is difficult to express feelings and reveal hurtful things, we tend to bury them don't we. I suppose it is human nature.  Yet, sometimes one can blurt it all out to a stranger within seconds of meeting. 

Hi Doleyglassback I am sorry to hear that you have still got hidden memories, I hope they don't torment you to much. :(  I think writing is the first step in tackling any demons...a diary becomes a book..and you have tremendous support...take care...Patti X
Title: Re: Grass and then there were tree's...true life book, coming to Europe soon..
Post by: tez28 on July 15, 2013, 07:03:PM
that's what I do and have been doing since about 1998.I have wrote loads but in the early 2000's I burnt loads, wished I hadn't but you cant turn back time.
Title: Re: Grass and then there were tree's...true life book, coming to Europe soon..
Post by: lookout on July 15, 2013, 07:41:PM
Doleyglassback,,get back to your writing,,it's the best therapy you can have. Put down your thoughts and make them into sentences,then slowly you'll replace what it was that you burned. Fortunately,,the memory is still good enough in picking up past events.I know you can't turn back time,,but if it will make you feel better,,you can back-track what you can remember,and the more you write,the more that springs to your mind which encourages you to go on.
Although you can't forget the past,,it will help to write things down by way of getting it out of your system. Bad memories will eventually fade with time.You need all the strength you've got to face the future,so offload the past on paper. Your mum might be gone,,but she'll never be forgotten.