Grief

[JackiePreece]

Peaches Geldof's husband Thomas Cohen 'hasn't been back to their house in 15 weeks because he is so traumatised by her death it has been reported.


An unnamed neighbour of the £1million home in Wrotham, Kent, told the Daily Mirror it had been mostly empty since her body was found on April 7 and Mr Cohen planned to sell it.

'Thomas hasn't been back to the house for a long time,' the neighbour said. 'Whenever he needs something, he gets his mum to pick it up.

[nugnug]

so its hardly unusual.

[lookout]

 It's a damned awful feeling even entering a place when you HAVE to,in case intruders have been seen outside it,let alone go and live there.

Jeremy was in no hurry to go inside WHF,even though he had the opportunity,and when he did finally go in at AE's request, it was with some trepidation. 

[scipio_usmc]

So you are saying Jeremy was so traumatized by the losses that he could not work on the farm anymore and chose to party in London etc instead at fancy places because of grief? 

[lookout]

Partying doesn't mean that you're a criminal !

Why don't you start studying the stages of grief instead of making assumptions all the time ?

[Alias]

So you are saying Jeremy was so traumatized by the losses that he could not work on the farm anymore and chose to party in London etc instead at fancy places because of grief?

It is a normal reaction to "party" (read: be with family and friends) when ypu have lost loved ones. It is impossible to be alone.
Colin partied too, he also travelled, went to restaurants, jazzclub, held a costume party. It sounds strange, but it is normal behaviour.

[nugnug]

So you are saying Jeremy was so traumatized by the losses that he could not work on the farm anymore and chose to party in London etc instead at fancy places because of grief?

ever heard of drowning your sorrows ever heard of wakes ive got pissed after many a funereal that doesnt mean i wasnt partying.

[lookout]

It's a way of numbing the pain--------------------normal.

Nowadays the deceaseds' life is " celebrated ",as opposed to it being mourned.

[Jane]

So you are saying Jeremy was so traumatized by the losses that he could not work on the farm anymore and chose to party in London etc instead at fancy places because of grief?

You sound as if you're saying that you don't believe this is a possibility. Innocent or -strangely, guilty- because he'd have had no way of knowing how such an action would impact on him afterwards, he may have needed to get as far away from it as possible to "party" it from his mind.

[nugnug]

it depends you mean by be partying anyway.

[Jane]

it depends you mean by be partying anyway.

Which is why I inverted "party"

[maggie]

You sound as if you're saying that you don't believe this is a possibility. Innocent or -strangely, guilty- because he'd have had no way of knowing how such an action would impact on him afterwards, he may have needed to get as far away from it as possible to "party" it from his mind.

This is a VERY strong possibility, was speaking to an old friend yesterday who's husband died suddenly over 30 year ago, he had a heart attack and died in front of her she said she was out a few days later partying and that carried on for about 8 months before it hit her.  People really do behave differently due to shock and it's a total red herring to suggest Jeremy's 'partying' proved anything.  imo

[nugnug]

well why do they have wakes after funerals.

i mean that sort of a party isnt

[susan]

Hello Maggie I am afraid it is more than Jeremy's partying that has made me think his behaviour after the murders was somewhat strange his attitude was awful even in Court he tried to be smart when after his family had been murdered he should have shown some sadness not arrogance.  It is strange even when I joined the forum at first and thought he maybe innocent I still felt the same about his attitude and made every excuse for him under the sun but now I face what I consider my reality of the events.

[nugnug]

he was very unwise to speak in his own defense but then had he not done so there would be people who said he had something to hide.